The post is by Nathan Rouse. Nathan is a pastor and blogger. You can connect with him here at www.nathanrouse.org.
In driver’s education one of the first things that you’re taught is that there are “blind spots” around your vehicle based on where your particular side and rear view mirrors are.
To overcome these obstacles, we are instructed to actually take a hard look around us to make sure the way we intend to go is clear. Failure to do so can and often does cause a wreck hurting you and others around you.
People have blind spots too. These are areas in our own life where we don’t see our actions and ways of doing things correctly. Most people don’t know their blind spots. That’s why they’re called blind spots!
As with driving, not taking the hard look at areas in our life that are weak can cause at best ineffectiveness and at worse destruction.We need people in our lives that we’ve given emotional permission to point out areas of concern. Click To Tweet
I can tell you one of my blind spots: becoming distracted in one on one conversations. The reason I have the privilege of knowing this blind spot is because someone was kind of enough to point it out to me a few years ago.
Let’s say I’m out on the church patio having a conversation with someone I do care about as hundreds of people walk around us. While trying to tune into what is being said to me I can find myself distracted seeing all of the people I need to touch base with: people I’ve been concerned about, people that have been trying to get a hold of me, etc.
Someone kindly pointed out to me, “Nathan, I feel like when I try and talk to you that you’re distracted.”
While this was hard to hear, it was incredibly helpful because I didn’t realize that I was making this people feel this way. With that input I was able to make corrections and do some things differently to work on this area.
We need people in our lives that we’ve given emotional permission to point out areas of concern. When is the last time you’ve asked someone:
1. Is there an area of my personality that you think might be annoying or bothersome?
2. What am I missing?
3. What area in my leadership do you see as a weakness or could be sharpened?
While these questions are painful to ask, the payoff of knowing these answers to these questions is HUGE.
Take to heart these wise words:
Prov 27:6 Faithful are the wounds of a friend, But deceitful are the kisses of an enemy.
It’s time to do more than check your mirrors. It’s time to take the hard look.